That sounds like a good solution.
The A77 does have an IR remote control, I have 2 of them.. one has just 2 buttons, one for instant shutter, one for 2 second delay. the other remote has a ton of buttons for basically hooking it up to a TV and looking at all the photos and videos on it's memory card. I suspect these remotes must use some sort of blink codes so it knows what button is pressed, I'm not sure if I could make the focus assist lamp on my S5is duplicate these, although that would be completely awesome!
wiring up a photo transistor to detect the focus assist lamp sounds like it would be quick and easy, and sounds like it would be very reliable and probably better for what I'm trying to do because I'll probably almost always have both cameras pointing at the same event, so even if I could figure out how to make the S5is output the 'ir code' needed it may not be practical anyway. the A77 does have a socket for a remote trigger, it's a simple 3 pin interface.. it has only 2 functions, auto focus and shutter release.. I'm pretty sure you just short the common pin to which ever function you want. I bought a cheap shutter release cable from ebay to take apart which will not only get me the weird plug I need, but I can also take it apart and verify how it works